This story is true. All names have been changed for protection of those involved.
Hello, my name is Hilda.
One of the greatest fears of my life was to end up divorced; as that is what my parents chose when I was just 3 years of age. My mother married again when I was 6 years old but that relationship also ended in divorce. I developed a deep hatred for divorce, knowing first hand the terrible carnage it left behind.
There must be some truth in the old saying that the very thing we fear the most comes to visit, because despite striving and controlling all the years of my own marriage, so that my children would not have to suffer the way I did, after 17 years my husband and I also parted. Fourteen years earlier I had said yes to the saving grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, but had never really grown in my relationship with Jesus. I had remained emotionally demanding, like a child. Everything was about me.
The wonderful thing I can see now is that the subsequent 11 years of separation enabled both my ex-husband and myself to mature, and in fact for me became the catalyst for healing and forgiving my parents for the childhood trauma of their divorce.
Right from the very beginning of our separation God instilled in my heart a strong desire and belief to hope for the best, which for me was to be fully reconciled again with my ex-husband. Over those 11 years my hope and determination waxed and waned according to feelings, but that strong desire and belief never left. Divorce was never an option for either of us but at the same time the reality of spending the rest of my life on my own was overwhelming at times. But worse, was the sobering truth that unless I kept allowing God in and letting him do his work on my heart, I would just keep making the same mistakes, (the definition of crazy is to find out what doesn't work and keep on doing it!).
When we first married I did not love or respect my husband, I honestly had no idea what love and respect were. He and I have since discussed the amazing thing that happened on our wedding day where, in spite of the fact that neither of us then had any kind of relationship with God, or even knew anything about him, we both knew that the vow we made to one another that day was a serious vow. I know now of course from Scripture that despite our ignorance of God, nonetheless he was a witness to our promises to each other, "Because the Lord was witness to the Covenant made at your marriage" Mal. 2:14.
The best news of all is, that after 11 years apart, we have recently come together again! Our 4 children, now themselves adults, are all very pleased for us, and I find it interesting that both of my parents, though themselves still estranged, are also thrilled that we are together again.
For me, God's truth has come to pass, "My steadfast love I will keep for you forever and my covenant will stand firm for you. I will not violate my covenant nor alter the word that went forth from my mouth." Psalm 89:28-34.
Isn't God amazing!
Hello, my name is Hilda.
One of the greatest fears of my life was to end up divorced; as that is what my parents chose when I was just 3 years of age. My mother married again when I was 6 years old but that relationship also ended in divorce. I developed a deep hatred for divorce, knowing first hand the terrible carnage it left behind.
There must be some truth in the old saying that the very thing we fear the most comes to visit, because despite striving and controlling all the years of my own marriage, so that my children would not have to suffer the way I did, after 17 years my husband and I also parted. Fourteen years earlier I had said yes to the saving grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, but had never really grown in my relationship with Jesus. I had remained emotionally demanding, like a child. Everything was about me.
The wonderful thing I can see now is that the subsequent 11 years of separation enabled both my ex-husband and myself to mature, and in fact for me became the catalyst for healing and forgiving my parents for the childhood trauma of their divorce.
Right from the very beginning of our separation God instilled in my heart a strong desire and belief to hope for the best, which for me was to be fully reconciled again with my ex-husband. Over those 11 years my hope and determination waxed and waned according to feelings, but that strong desire and belief never left. Divorce was never an option for either of us but at the same time the reality of spending the rest of my life on my own was overwhelming at times. But worse, was the sobering truth that unless I kept allowing God in and letting him do his work on my heart, I would just keep making the same mistakes, (the definition of crazy is to find out what doesn't work and keep on doing it!).
When we first married I did not love or respect my husband, I honestly had no idea what love and respect were. He and I have since discussed the amazing thing that happened on our wedding day where, in spite of the fact that neither of us then had any kind of relationship with God, or even knew anything about him, we both knew that the vow we made to one another that day was a serious vow. I know now of course from Scripture that despite our ignorance of God, nonetheless he was a witness to our promises to each other, "Because the Lord was witness to the Covenant made at your marriage" Mal. 2:14.
The best news of all is, that after 11 years apart, we have recently come together again! Our 4 children, now themselves adults, are all very pleased for us, and I find it interesting that both of my parents, though themselves still estranged, are also thrilled that we are together again.
For me, God's truth has come to pass, "My steadfast love I will keep for you forever and my covenant will stand firm for you. I will not violate my covenant nor alter the word that went forth from my mouth." Psalm 89:28-34.
Isn't God amazing!
